Relationship Issues

How much do you know concerning your relationship?

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3 Basic Questions that Needed Answers for Long Lasting Relationship.

Humans are naturally born to be social and are shaped by their experiences (positive or negative) with one another and are tends to be a social being. In other to understand this social being behavior and inherent motivation to interact with others, one need to know how, where, when and what to interact; if really we want to build a long lasting relationships in life.

There is a time in every man’s life, male or female to make a decision concerning what they really want in life. In every relationship, there is a question asked mostly by the female. It can also be asked by the male too if probably he perceive that she is not giving her all to the growth and success of that relationship they both involve.Read More

These are the best questions asked and needed to be asked in every relationship and date you are involved in. That is what I term the three W’s.

§  What is this relationship?

§   Where is this relationship leading to?

§   Why is this relationship?

Now, if all these are put in place before your spouse and he/she articulately did not give you the needed answer, I perceive there must be something wrong somewhere and somehow.

What is this Relationship?

What I mean by this question is “Relationship Definition”. In every relationship, there must be a proper definition be it romantic of just a friend. Defining a relationship first and foremost help to strengthen the relationship thereby providing a guiding principles for the success of that relationship.

Now, how does one define his/her relationship? You can do that by stating and asking the other partner involve this questions or better still ask yourself these:

Is this relationship a romantic relationship or is it just a friendship

Is this what involving in?

Is it mutual?

In terms of a romantic relationship, “Relationship Definition”, these is where you need to know your position; what, where you are in the relationship and often time it required a carefully planned conversation where both partners have an abundant time to talk and discuss the issue of the day with all concentration and avoidance of distraction from oneself and external element too. That is to say defining a relationship requires a serene, calm environment and mind and in this conversation, there must be a conclusion by both parties and partners. Hey common here; Note what you don’t plan for, means you are planning to fail. In order word, a relationship unplanned for will and definitely lead to failure.

Where is the Relationship Heading to?

Every relationship in life be it friendship or a romantic one, must have a destination. 'A relationship without a destination is like a like a ship on a sea that has no route, even it is like a box of treasure thrown on a sea whose direction is unknown. Knowing the route and destination of any relationship propel your action and commitment to it. Whether you like it or not, there are relationships that will definitely lead to doom and other a greater success; since there are two principles to any kind of relationship and this must be taken cognizance of before anyone should get involved. These are:

1.     The YES principle

2.      The NO principle

The YES Principle:

This when both partners or party come to agreement and mutual understanding  that yes we are staying, sticking together and starting something meaningful as a friends or  romantic relationship; and we are taking this to the alter better still walking her the aisle. In this principle both partners are open and oblige to talking and discussing personal and all other issues related to each other. One person pains, difficulties and happiness is the other person pains, difficulties and happiness too. Both shows deep concerns to one another.

The NO Principle:  

This is when there is a total disagreement with what the relationship is all about. They usually appear inform of nonchalant attitude people show in their relationship which conveys and portrait NO! I don’t want to spend the rest of my life with you or i refuse to be committed in this with you; be it is just friendship or romantic or the refusal of not picking up their calls when you when you try calling or not wanting to discuss personal issues to one another. In this principle, the heart and mind of one or both partners is/are totally sealed up and closed for the other partner. It is the total opposite of what i have highlighted above.

Many relationships must fail and many will succeed depending on how you play the card and how committed you are to it. This is a better truth to some people hearing; right? Romantic relationship is often crowned with marriage. In case you are in one right now and he/she is not talking and willing to take it to the next level or phase rather he wants the destination to always be on his bedroom or couch, then that relationship is doom to fail neither will it come to the lime light or see the sunlight of the next day. Ladies and gentlemen, any guys who love you just to satisfy his sexual urge, is neither worth living with nor dating because the tales is that it will fail.

Why is this Relationship?

There is always a reason’s for everything we do in life irrespective of what that thing might be. There is a reason why a child is delivered after or within the ninth month of pregnancy and there is a reason why people get married just as there is a reason you are reading this article right now. In the same way, there should be a strong reason and purpose of any kind of relationship one want to get in before kick starting it at all. Therefore, every relationship irrespective of its kind, before its establishment, the purpose must be ascertained. A journey of a thousand miles that will involve a lot of hurdles, critical strategies must be put in place in order to achieve a good success in it.

This gives a ground why a lot of young people or individual go into relationship irrespective of its kind and end up with heart breaks. They tend to rush into one and subsequently rushed out too because there is no purpose of that relationship that is established.

Don’t blame anyone for the hurts you received from a relationship rather check yourself first because the failure and the success of any relationship begin with you; even in the things we do in life in general. So establishing the purpose of the relationship is a typical catalyst to the success of any relationships in life. Purpose brings about fulfillment in everything we do in life as human being.

Every human is created to seek connections with others as well seek intimacy but seeking this with right frame of mind and the right ingredients in place, will enhance us to have a superlative relationships with one another.